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3 Steps To Master Toxic Emotions With Rational Grace

Would it surprise you to know that the meanest people are just hurt, and controlled by who and what they fear?

And that their rage is often pent-up toxic emotions that they have no idea how to identify or deal with?  

Renowned Trainer, Speaker, and Author of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker has encountered enough toxic situations and people in his 3 decades of money-making service delivery, to know that he has found the key to navigating the storms of emotional chaos with a rational mind.  


Has an argument with somebody else ever made your blood curdle?

You’re not alone.

Someone spits out something vexing and the gloves are off.

Before you consider any alternative, you’re contributing adversely to a toxic situation loaded with former subconscious programming.

Now what if, instead regurgitating your own toxic emotions in response, you could actually learn how to respond from positive, proactive programming?  

Let’s look at what you can start doing today to free yourself from the imposing and limiting belief systems of other people.


1. Take Notice Of What’s Really Going On

For starters, recognizing that you're becoming irate, aggravated, affronted, taken aback or whichever state tops your turvy, is step one to moving forward. 

And even more so is knowing the trigger to your own toxic emotions and observing your response to it. 

We’re all conditioned to respond to specific triggers, specific people and specific situations in specific ways. 

These reactions are ingrained, like grooves on a long-play record.

You might recall how records used to get stuck, looping in the same spot and replaying one part over and over and over until someone lifted the needle to make it stop

They got stuck in a groove, and the rest of the album wasn’t getting any airtime.

Well, it’s no different with us

We sometimes get stuck in damaged grooves and subconsciously react on autopilot, and sadly sometimes auto-repeat…


Now, once you notice something, you have awareness of it — but you then torture yourself for doing so — you’ve just deteriorated that situation beyond bad for yourself.

Here’s a quote from Harv’s Zen teacher, she says: “If you beat yourself up for noticing, you will train yourself not to notice.” -Cheri Huber

And without observation, no change can occur.

So what do you do now?  Read on and see…


2. Be Aware, Absent Prejudice & Get Out of Your Mind

When assessing situations, you must understand that neither the other person nor the situation are you — and neither are within your control in that moment.

Essentially you must divorce yourself from such circumstances and separate yourself from the mind which becomes unsettled amid those situations presented by toxic emotions.

If I receive criticism about the way I teach, it’s easy for me to feel hurt or angry about that, but that isn’t me talking. That’s the small self, the ego self, the fear-based self, the protective self — the fear-based voice that is my mind.


And that’s obviously not who Harv truly is, nor is it who you truly are, when  your fear-based ego self seeks to protect itself. 

Sure the mind is part of the body like limbs and appendages, but it is not you.

Understanding this empowers you to distinguish between your mind, and your actual self. 

It helps you recognize your mind as the protective mechanism it is, which is simply fulfilling its function as per its programming, thereby causing you to react in a specific way and therefore producing what you feel in that moment.

Once you’re able to set yourself apart from your mind, you become aware of your environment without any judgment and are able to respond appropriately (see the next step)…


3. Simply Say, “Thank You For Sharing” - Don't React to Toxic Emotions

Other people will try feeding their poison to you because it's all they have to share.

And what reason would you have for eating their poison? 

Just because that’s all they’re serving, doesn’t mean you must eat from their menu, or swallow what they spit out, or wallow in the wake of it, or bathe in it’s waters.

Their poison is theirs. It comes from their background and their conditioning. It’s not truly “them” either.


What's the natural thing to do if you've been poisoned? 

Try and get rid of it, right?

The next time someone spits out their nasty, negative, unbecoming comments, understand that the poison is theirs

Arguing with them suggests you're trying to feed them their own poison. 

It's their own stress, their own baggage, their own fear looping endlessly again.  

That’s all there is to it. 

You can say “Thank  you for sharing”, turn and leave or if you’re good friends, you can listen and allow them to express it but do NOT absorb it.


Here's a valuable example from Harv's own personal experience…

“When I’m in seminars, believe it or not, during our break-time, most people who come up to engage with me are very grateful and are there to learn — but some other people are there just to be “right.”

Of course, to be right, I have to be wrong, true?

So they’ll come up to me and criticize something about me or my seminar, and I generally just thank them and move on.

They might then insist on telling me why they didn’t enjoy my presentation.

Eventually, I’ll need to move on to the next person, and have forgotten what that person said in about a millionth of a second, because I am not going to let that slime stick on me.

Do you know why?


It’s because I have another student who is grateful, happy and wants to learn and I am not going to transfer that first person’s slime onto my next person.

No way am I doing that to them, so I’ve got to let it go quickly.

Of course, sometimes I get hooked in.

After the interaction, I feel myself all jittery and I think, “Why did I entertain that? I’ll judge myself right away, but then breathe through it and follow the above three steps.

And it’s these times when I decide to let it go and move on, that nobody has any criticism for me!"


With This Mindset as a Habit, You Will Truly Be Unstoppable in Every Aspect of Your Life!

It’s how the Universe operates, or as Harv would say, “When we accept things as they are instead of resisting, things seem to work in our favor.”

Understand that our responses to specific issues and fear are subconscious, but it’s a practice. 

How can one change their subconscious?

You can change your unconscious/subconscious by first making the unconscious conscious’.

Consciously assemble a method for handling intense or stressful situations, i.e, “The next time a person raises his voice, I’m going to respond like this,” - this helps you to consciously create a unique and useful method.


You must consciously let it be first.

When does a conscious response become an unconscious response? 

By practice and repeat. 

You can’t expect to do something once and have it automatically become subconscious right away.

It requires frequency.

Doing it over and over programs the neuron to inevitably take over. 

This neurological pathway then becomes unconscious as it is the path offering the least resistance. 

Once you’ve developed your own method to deal with  toxic emotions and poisonous energy, having practiced it frequently enough, it rebuilds your subconscious.


From this point, you’re enabled to gracefully stave off the distasteful energy from those in your midst, and rather, focus on every exciting & positive blessing around you

With this mindset as a habit, you are truly unstoppable in each aspect of your life.

So we’ve learned that the first step for ALL transformation to occur is awareness

You must be aware of the thoughts creating triggers within you, causing undesired reactions, so you may rewire your mind.


Conclusion:  Not Your Madhouse, Not Your Crazies

What others say and do is a reflection of who they are, not of who you are.

Fear and judgment elicit triggers which prompt particular behaviors.

Reacting out of fear usually results in ugly arguments but choosing not to entertain your negative thoughts, nor the unhelpful attacks of others starts with being aware of what gets under your skin.

Remember, you're not a garbage can and therefore serve no purpose tolerating the toxic emotional dumping of others.

Unhealed toxic feelings will not build strong loving relationships, good business partnerships or generational wealth, so why entertain them?

Know yourself, learn better ways of being your best self and you’ll understand the value of selective interaction and powerful presence. 

In a world of emotionalism vs rationalism, acting reasonably will save you time, money and set you apart from unsuccessful people and situations sparing you unnecessary pain.

Your deliberate skillful detachment from toxicity starts with improving your mentality.

If you want to know how to develop a millionaire mindset, you're certainly in the right place at the right time!


Frequently Asked Questions About Toxic Emotions

Has your Mind ever wondered...

What are the 5 negative emotions?

Fear is at the base of jealousy, anger, resentment, frustration, anxiety - all those viciously uncomfortable emotional anchors we experience when we are triggered and have no idea how to manage a situation that has spiraled out of control.

When you experience any form of fear, the often paralyzing effect it has on mind, body and spirit affects you mentally and judgment becomes clouded, inhibiting rational responses.

For this reason it is vital to understand that fear can be mastered and used as a tool for growth.

What is the most harmful emotion?

Fear, because of it’s potential to completely disable reasonable action.

How do you release toxic emotions?

When you’re experiencing toxic emotions, observe them one at a time and peel away the layers until you arrive at the root cause.

Healing from your own toxic emotions, or toxic abuse perpetrated by another, requires acknowledging the emotion as well as the root, forgiving yourself, others and the situation completely, finding the hidden blessing, absorbing the lessons learned and reframing the experience as a stepping stone for your growth.

Your strongest ally in the healing process is your mindset, your will to move forward and a desire to no longer remain anchored to the past.

Why do I hurt emotionally?

Nobody said being human will be easy, or that we live in a fair world, so naturally we experience a sense of injustice and agony when we endure unpleasant events.

Whether we feel emotionally unbalanced or distressed because of a situation, the actions of others or a regret we have, at the core is who you are as a person.

Where some have no space in their existence to experience grief, others have no capacity to love or care while many are adversely affected by something as insignificant as an unflattering opinion of someone else.

The key is to know yourself, set boundaries and make reasonable decisions that will prevent unnecessary pain or loss.

At some stage or another we all have to deal with emotions, however, how we respond to these will be determined by our personal development.

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