If you’d like to be confident and get rich too, you’ll enjoy today’s Q&A where we look at T. Harv Eker’s explanation of how he conquered his worst mental enemy and went from having no confidence to enjoying more positive experiences by counting his small successes, which led to huge success and wealth.
You’ll also be given a simple exercise that can help you build confidence and a success mindset virtually effortlessly.
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“What was the most persistent mental enemy that you had before you consistently created a steady flow of wealth?
How long did the resistance persist before it gave up or caved to your persistence?”
Isn’t this a very interesting question that so many people can relate to?
What the reader is essentially asking is what Harv’s biggest mental enemy was before he created wealth and how long it was resistant before it ‘caved’ or gave up on Harv’s own persistence...
Alright, so Harv answers this in a couple of parts.
First of all, what was the most persistent mental enemy he had before he created wealth?
Harv gives two of them, but they’re really the same one.
Here it is.
Everything that Harv attempted, whether it was a business or a job, this was his predominant thought…
“What if it doesn’t work?”
The reader asked for an enemy, right?
Can anybody relate to this?
“What if it doesn’t work?”
Now along with this, was… “Is this the right thing for me?”
Can you relate to that?
“Is this the right thing for me?”
Yes?
Okay, so they’re really the same thing.
They’re both… “What if it doesn’t work?”, right?
“What if it doesn’t work out somehow?”
So that was Harv’s predominant thought before he became what most people would call very very very very very successful.
And what does that show?
It shows a lack of a certain type of characteristic necessary if you’d like to get rich, says Harv.
And that characteristic is what?
CONFIDENCE.
Yes or Yes?
So, essentially Harv’s mental enemy, originally, was a lack of confidence.
Even though outwardly he admits that he showed others that he was confident, he mentions that inside of him was a lack of confidence because he was constantly going…
“What if…? What if it doesn’t work? What if it’s not right for me?” etc.
And of course, why would he have confidence when he had nothing of worth yet?
You understand?
This is an interesting dichotomy, isn’t it?
“WHY was it a lack of confidence?”
Well, everything Harv touched, he says, turned to SH!T, so why would he have the confidence to get rich?
Right?!
And so literally, that was the problem for Harv…
A lack of confidence.
However, he reveals that didn’t UNDERSTAND confidence at the time.
One thing about confidence, says Harv, is that confidence comes from TRUST.
And where does trust come from?
Well, it can come from your Higher Self of course, but usually, trust comes from experience.
And, confidence comes from a positive experience such as validation.
Now bear with us here, okay…
So trust and confidence come from positive experiences, and Harv had had a lot of negative experiences which is why he went into everything without a lot of confidence.
But he acknowledges that he was just focusing on the OUTCOME to get rich.
What he kept on doing was reminding himself that he hadn’t gotten rich in any business yet.
So what he knows now is that he thinks very differently than what he did before.
And he knows today that you have to CREATE confidence.
It’s not all going to come in one big shot.
According to Harv, confidence comes in little steps.
Write this down and display it where you can see it, please…
LITTLE STEPS CREATE CONFIDENCE.
Little steps, little improvements, and a little progress at a time create confidence.
You don’t create confidence by winning the Super Bowl on day one.
That’s not how confidence is created.
You create confidence by winning the next game.
You create confidence by having a good practice.
You create confidence by having a small success in your life.
So Harv says that what he learned, and this is critical everybody, is that you create confidence by creating small successes in your life.
And the reason we don’t create small successes in our life is because we make them NO BIG DEAL!
So what do we have to do to create small successes in our lives so we can get rich?
You’ve got to CREATE a success, says Harv.
A success is an accomplishment of a specific intention or goal.
And if you have no intention or no goal, it can’t be successful, can it?
Because you didn’t create that, you had no intention for X to happen, so how could you say it was a success, right?
So you have to start with a goal or intention and make that intention really really really really tiny.
And as soon as your mind goes… “Well that doesn’t count!”, then you say…
“Well, it counts for this exercise because Harv’s the one giving us the exercise!
It’s Harv’s exercise, he’s the one giving it to us and he said that this is the rule for his exercise.”.
So, for example, let’s say you’re not in great shape because you don’t work out too much.
Set the intention to walk 100 steps today.
Now your mind’s going… “Frick-it Harv, I walk 100 steps around my house just getting breakfast!”
Well whoopie doo!
Then it’s likely that you might succeed at this one!
Maybe yes, maybe no?
We’ll have to see, won’t we!
100 steps, today.
Or you might set the intention to walk 50 meters, or 50 yards outside today to start off your fitness thing.
And you might think… “Well Harv, that’s like nothing!”
Okay great.
If you do better, then you do better and that’s great but the success only comes at 50 meters or 50 yards.
That’s it.
So, as Harv is suggesting you do, you’re going to WRITE DOWN…
“My intention for this exercise is to walk 50 meters or 50 yards outside today as part of my exercise program.”
And you must write it down because that makes it REAL, Harv says.
And then, when you’ve walked your 50 meters or 50 yards, you come back and you write ‘SUCCESS’ over that intention.
Now, your mind’s going to go… “But that was nothing!” even though you may have done more.
Then all you’ll say to your conditioned mind is… “Thank you for sharing. That was the exercise.”
And that’s it.
Now you have a small success.
So let’s say you’d like to lose some weight, and you eat 5 chocolate chip cookies every night…
I’d like you to write down…
“My intention tonight is to have only 4 chocolate chip cookies and instead of having the 5th cookie, I’m going to have this non-calorie thing…”
Whatever your choice of non-calorie is, it could be grapes or frozen yogurt or whatever, just replace 1 cookie with something that’s low-cal or no-cal.
That’s all you’re going to do, on the last one just to fill that gap, says Harv.
And then you write it down, mark down your success, don’t just talk about it.
Now, you KEEP ON doing these little things…
“My intention is to take a shower today…” which is a great idea if you haven’t taken a shower in a few days, just DO IT okay...
And you make sure to write it down and mark your success…
You’re understanding this, right?
Remember to keep the ‘success’ criteria to a minimum.
But write the word ‘SUCCESS’ every time.
Now why do you think in your mind that it’s only big successes that count?
NO!
Harv says you can change your world.
Small successes count because that’s the GAME, that’s the goal.
So Harv used to think that only if he was rich, that meant the business was a success.
What a cr@ppy way to live that was.
Now he knows that, but that was stupid.
The reason it was stupid is because it doesn’t all come at once.
And you know what, just as you can get rich quickly, Harv warns that you can get poor quickly too.
He was never counting his PROGRESS, and when he started counting little successes, his CONFIDENCE GREW.
In almost all of Harv’s courses, he’ll give you an exercise, and here’s the exercise…
He’d like for you to have a success journal and write down 5 successes you’ve had today.
But he’s going to ask you to write down just 1 success you’ve had today to start your journal with.
For a whole month, write down just 1 success you’ve had each day.
And by the way, getting the journal is your first task says Harv… have a success page or a success journal.
So by the end of 30 days, you will have 30 ‘success entries’ in your journal.
Now here’s what Harv believes will start happening...
Every time you do this, you’re going to see the word ‘SUCCESS’.
And when you go back, you’ll see ‘SUCCESS’.
And the next day, ‘SUCCESS’.
And when you update it again you’ll see ‘SUCCESS’.
And every day more ‘SUCCESS’.
And pretty soon you’re ingraining it and teaching your brain to recognize that you are a ‘SUCCESS’.
Your brain might go… “Well those weren’t big things…” and you’ll say… “Thanks for sharing. They were big enough because that was the exercise.”
The exercise is NOT to do big things.
The exercise is to be successful at little things, Harv reiterates.
Because if you can succeed in the little things, you can succeed at the big things!
You see, you already annoy yourself with the big things, so Harv doesn’t have to do that for you.
You already bother yourself enough with that, understand?
Set a daily intention, one goal or intention a day on what you’re going to do, to take a small step towards success.
And it could be in any arena, it doesn’t have to be in the same arena.
Today it could be walking in the yard.
Tomorrow it could be getting up 5 minutes earlier than normal.
Or it could be connecting with nature and setting the goal to spend 1 minute looking at, appreciating and hugging a tree.
That’s it.
And then you come back and write ‘SUCCESS’.
Understand?
That’s all you have to do, according to Harv.
And we’d love to get some feedback from you as to how it’s going with this.
Write down your intentions, share your success, and tell us how it makes you feel.
Because Harv can already tell you how you will feel.
Unless you allow your conditioned to mind to take over again, you’re going to start feeling more confident.
You have to, because what do you see?
‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’, ‘SUCCESS’!
When you keep looking at your journal, and all you see are successes, now how can you say… “I’m not successful…” when all you see is success?
You’re training your brain that you are successful which means you’re increasing your confidence.
And that, my friends, is what the biggest thing was for Harv…
Starting to count his small successes.
Starting to create small tiny goals and intentions that were so easy to create and succeed at.
But before, he wasn’t doing that.
For Harv, it was either… “I’m a millionaire or I’m not successful!”!
Well, what about ‘the way to the millionaire’?!
What about the 1, 2, 3, 5, 10 years it takes to become a millionaire?!
Wow, if you’re only happy and successful when you become a millionaire, you’ll have trained yourself to be unsuccessful all during that time!
Instead of counting your small successful steps and building the habit of success!
And even if you do become a millionaire, you’ll have trained yourself to be an unsuccessful millionaire and still feel unsuccessful!
Do you get this?
If you're using the same tactics millionaires use to overcome their mindset challenges, you'll be employing proven strategies to be happier and to become unstoppable in life and in business by counting your small successes and programming your days for success.
It is a practice, a way of being and the frequency at which you wholeheartedly practice supportive empowering ways is crucial for your growth.
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Has your Mind ever wondered…
The problem is not to get rich, but to stay rich.
If you have habits that don’t support wealth and success, nothing you achieve will last.
It’s fairly easy to get rich and to stay that way, if you manage your money well.
This means that WHO you are plays a bigger role in the wealth you have, than the digits in your bank account because HOW you do anything is how you do everything.
That depends on your definition of smart.
Is it smart to have habits that support you on your journey to get rich, build confidence and achieve success?
Then yes, you must be smart to get rich.
And to be clear, your IQ and academic achievements have far less to do with if and how you get rich, than your attitude and consciousness do.
Because you are the things you do, to get rich you have to be the ‘right person’.
This starts with the thoughts you have as thoughts create feelings, which lead to actions that produce results.
To get rich and to have everything you desire in life as a result of who you are, learn how to develop a millionaire mindset which empowers you to reach your full potential.
Being intentional over whatsoever we want to do is a pick in this lesson. The mindset of NO BIG DEAL portraying an habit that needs to be broken was clearly explained. Additionally stating that, without confidence we can't actually be anything. Emphasizing on little steps taken to build confidence.
My special take is that, we can build confidence by having a good practice too. That we seem to lack confidence at times because of negative experiences.