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Wealth File #10 - Be An Excellent Receiver

Rich people "are excellent receivers."
Poor people "are poor receivers."

Among the lesser-known secrets of the millionaire mind, is the exponential value of being an excellent receiver.

If I had to choose the primary reason why most people do not reach their full financial potential, it would be that most people are poor “receivers.”
They are either good or not good at giving, but they are definitely bad at receiving.

And because of that, they don’t receive.

People see receiving as a challenge because of a lot of reasons. First, most people feel that they are not worthy or do not deserve to receive.
This condition is widespread in our society.
I would estimate that approximately 90 percent of people feel that they are not good enough.

Where does this low confidence come from? Usually, it is from our conditioning.
For most of us it comes from hearing twenty No's for every Yes, ten “You’re doing it wrong's for every “You’re doing it right,” and five “You’re stupid's for every “You’re awesome.”

Even if our parents were very supportive, still many of us end up feeling that we do not deserve their praises and that we have not met their expectations. Therefore, we’re still not good enough.

Also, a lot of us grew up knowing that if we do something wrong, punishment will follow. Although this is an unwritten rule, it has been part of our lives.

Some have been taking punishment from our parents, some from our teachers, and some are threatened in religious circles with the worst punishment of all, that they will not be going to heaven.

Of course, now that we’re adults, one would think that this is all over. Right?

Unfortunately, it’s not!
Most people strongly believe in the conditioning of punishment so much that even if there’s no one around to punish them, every time they make a mistake, they punish themselves without noticing it.

During their younger years, this punishment might have come in the form of “You were bad, so no candy.”

But, today, it could come in the form of “You were bad, so no money.” This is one reason why some people limit their earnings, and why others will subconsciously sabotage their success.

No wonder people have difficulty receiving. One wrong move and you’re fated to be unhappy and poor for the rest of your life.
“A little harsh,” you say? Since when did the mind become rational and sympathetic?

Again, the mind is a folder filled with files from the past, made-up meanings, and stories of drama and disaster. “Making sense” is not its strong suit.

Here’s something I share in my seminars that might make you feel better. In the end, it doesn’t matter if you feel worthy or not, you can be rich either way.

Some rich people don’t feel exceptionally worthy either. It is even one of the main motivations for people to get rich… to prove themselves and their worth to themselves and to others.

That self-worth is necessary for net worth is only an idea, which doesn’t hold water in the real world.

As we stated earlier, getting rich to prove yourself might not make you happy, so it is better for you to create wealth for other reasons.

But, what’s important is that you understand your feelings of unworthiness and that it won’t stop you from getting rich.
From a financial point of view, this could even become a motivational asset.

Nothing has meaning except for the meaning we allocate to it, and you must recognize that whether you're worthy or not, it's all a fictional narrative.

You alone decide whether or not you're worthy.

Declare it today and every day hereafter: "I am ready to receive!"

Source: Secrets of the Millionaire Mind T. Harv Eker © 2003

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Frequently Asked Questions About Being an Excellent Receiver


How can I be a good receiver in my life?

Consider how good it feels to give.

It is through giving that we learn to be excellent receivers, because you are able to reverse the roles, knowing what giving feels like.

By being an excellent receiver, you help the giver feel great and you benefit by being open to receiving, thus inviting more receiving into your own life. 

What does it mean to be a good receiver?

Receiving with grace and humility allows you and the giving party to interact in a sacred exchange of value.

Why is it harder to receive than to give?

We are human and this is a matter of perspective and mindset. 

We feel, and our feelings largely determine our actions. 

Our thoughts influence our feelings and these thoughts are informed by our subconscious programming.

Buried deep within our blueprints are hidden anchors to circumstances, events or incidents which dictate how we feel about being on the receiving end of kindness.

Giving creates a sense of power and some people experience receiving as a moment of powerlessness, which limits how much they receive and makes it very difficult for them to build wealth.

Resolving your relationship with how it feels to receive will strengthen your self-worth, and put you in a position to give more.

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